Being Open

I love dogwood trees. The first time I saw one, I thought the tree had butterflies on it. I grew up on the west coast, and where I lived, I had never seen a dogwood tree before. Now they are one of my favorite trees. The blossoms on a dogwood are open and, to me, represent being open.

For me, being open means, trying to accept what happens in my life. It means to try to be less judgmental about others. Being open also means I don’t get to control everything. Stuff will happen over which I have no control. Accepting what happens in my life does not mean I am resigned about what happens. It means I get to choose how I will respond to what happens in my life.

To be open, I try to be kind and loving towards everyone, including myself. When I am not loving towards myself, I have a hard time giving that love away. The kind of loving I mean here is I try to be compassionate. This is not always easy. If I anger someone else by telling him/her/them how I truly feel in the kindest way I can, I have to remind myself not to take their reaction personally. They will respond how they respond.

If I am fearful of others, I can’t be open. Fear is a closed door or wall that keeps others out. I do not like to live in fear. It is a good signal to myself that I might need to ask for help from an understanding friend or work on something in myself.

I must also remember everyone has an opinion and that often, that opinion will differ from my own. If I am willing to listen to others and be open, I don’t have to agree to respect that other person. Last week I saw a story about the famous singer, Joan Baez, who is very open to listening to others. Please read this story.

To read this story you may need to cut and paste the above URL. At least, that was the only way I could get it to work.

“Open your eyes, look within. Are you satisfied with the life you’re living?”
– Bob Marley


Giver and Healer

Thanks to by brother, Larry Wade, for the beautiful background photo from the the Central Andes of Chile. The mountains are Torres del Paine.

Over the last few weeks, I’ve been healing with the help of my source. Sometimes the past comes and has to be dealt with. My source, family, and dear friends helped me through. Spiritual healing is like looking up at these beautiful mountains, and it can be challenging, too. As I continue to heal, I now feel freer and more connected to my source. To grow and learn I had to be still and listen. To be still I had to SLOW myself down.

I am glad to get my energy back, and I was thankful for the time that I had to follow the four letter word: REST, along with my source. I had no other choice. So often in life before now, I would pick myself up so quickly, the word REST was not something I had ever known. In that state while I was healing, I could even be more aware of how good a shower felt, or how good a dinner tasted, or how beautiful the clouds are. Life became very simple. I could only do ONE thing at a time.

This is what Joshua Becker said about rest:

The Underappreciation of Rest in Today’s Society

“The only journey is the one within.” – Rainer Maria Rilke

I found out that on my journey within that I was never alone. My source, family, and close friends were always there for support and comfort me. Learning this at a deeper level of understanding and feeling it in my heart was truly the greatest gift to me!